The Magic Of Making Up - Getting Back With Your Ex

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While romantic relationships are an integral part of life, the breaking up that results after some relationships can be a very traumatic experience for some people - especially if they've fallen in love with the person that they were dating. If the amount of movies on the subject is any indication of the phenomenon, then break-ups are as much a part of life as washing the dishes or taking out the trash. In the last several years, there have been plenty of movies (mostly comedies) about people breaking up and then getting back together - but, how realistic of a notion is it? 

Most people are of the opinion that once you break up with someone, it can be nearly impossible to get them back. Truth be told, most couples who break up never get back together, and the typical outcome is a complete cutting off of communication and friendship between the two parties. This is usually why break-ups hurt so bad, and are such a devastating experience for some people. However, a lot of people have found that getting an ex back isn't as hard as it seems, or as hard as everyone makes it out to be. Getting your ex back will more than likely be a very difficult experience, but examples all over the world show that it can be done.

One of the first things that you should do after a break-up, is determine the nature and cause of the break-up. If your ex simply wants to move on and date other people, then chances are likely that you probably won't have much luck getting him or her back. 

If you find out that your ex broke up with you because he or she didn't like something about you (i.e. you weren't emotional enough in bed, you didn't help out around the apartment as much as you should have, etc.) then try to work on those things and tell your ex that you'll do better in the future. Getting your ex back is all about communication and responsiveness. After you've made your plea, give your ex some time to think about it and get back with you. 

One of the things that you need to keep in mind is that you can't get someone back by scaring them into submission. If you call your ex up, and ask them to come and get their stuff, or bring your stuff back to you, it's only going to push them even further away because they'll now think that you're completely fine with the break-up and want to move on. Even though this is an emotional time for you, you don't need to go around slinging your emotions every which way. 

The worst case scenario in this situation is that you make your ex so upset that they stop having anything to do with you for good. Be up front with your ex about your feelings, but remember to remain calm. Crying can also upset your ex, and if you do it enough, chances are that they'll get start getting sick of you. Getting an ex back takes strength and courage.

Whether or not you've tried the advice mentioned previously, be sure to stay strong no matter what happens. Whatever the outcome of the situation is, just know that you're a wonderful, independent person, and you don't need anyone else to 'complete' you. No matter what anyone else says or does, you'll always be you, and you should never forget that. While that may sound sort of like a cliché, that kind of mindset will help you in getting an ex back more than anything. 

People in general admire self-confidence, and want to be around confident people. You need to be able to show your ex that you don't 'need' him or her, anymore than they do you. It's true that most people want what they can't have. Keep an open channel with your ex, but don't treat them any differently than you would a friend. If you're unavailable to go to a party with them, then you're unavailable. It's as simple as that. 

Even though you may think that you've just lost the love of your life, keep telling yourself that there are other people in the world and that there's always going to be somebody out there for you. Even though you're trying to get back with your ex, this will reinforce the notion in your head that you're a beautiful and independent person that doesn't need anyone else to make their life great. 

Try to go about your normal, every day life to the best of your ability. Good things come to those who wait patiently.

Another thing you should probably do, almost immediately after a break-up, is get out of the house with some friends, and not wallow in your own self-pity and misery. Call some of the girls or guys, and go have fun at a club or whatever activity you like doing most. 

Sitting around and thinking about what you could have done to improve the relationship, or how you're going to go about getting your ex back, should be put off for at least a week so you can clear your mind and then come back to the subject with a fresh perspective. If you do this, you'll be able to see the entire situation in a new light and will be able to determine the right course of action objectively. 

Also, try to figure out what attracted you to your ex in the first place. What was the initial conversation or meeting like, and how did you interact with each other? Also find out what made your ex attracted to you, and then try to embody those things in your day-to-day life. If you haven't stopped talking to your ex, they'll start noticing those attractive qualities more and more, and will be more likely to give you a second chance. 

With that in mind, don't assume a fake personality or anything like that to impress your ex; it'll just make you seem desperate and will be a major turn-off. Always be yourself in situations where you would have to spend time around your ex. Getting back with your ex is the goal here - not changing yourself to live up to somebody else's standards.

These are just some of the many methods that you can use to try and get your ex back. If you just remember to be yourself, stay strong, and try to go about your daily life like you always have, then the outcome will be much better for you in the long run - whether or not you and your ex get back together. 

Although the process may prove hard and emotionally draining, just remember that literally billions of people have gone through exactly the same thing that you're currently going through, and those people made it out of their situations just fine. In the end, if worst comes to worst, there's always another person out there waiting to find the right guy or girl...and it could be you. 

Try to remain optimistic, and always remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea.